Oh Whale..

Boundaries. Today is all about boundaries. The jet fuel for true freedom, in my opinion is boundaries. I was never one to really establish boundaries for a long time because I was too busy “people pleasing” which does nothing but give people the green light to disrespect you. They’ll spot your weakness, whether it be consciously or subconsciously and take advantage of it and you. If I leave anything with you today, it is to never let anybody take advantage of you. Always stand up for yourself and stand firm on that belief.

The moment you continue to allow disrespect, and not check it as soon as you are aware of it, the more you gain a level of self-respect that cannot be measured. The amount of courage it takes to stand up for yourself should come from your freedom to not be bound to what people may think. Who cares? if you speak up for yourself for something you may think is right and if the person on the receiving end doesn’t like it or is resistant to your boundary, let their ass go. and if they don’t take it personal and respects your boundary, then that is a form of unconditional love. it is a respect factor that does nothing but build strong and healthy relationships everywhere. no matter the relationship. It can be with your parents, co-workers, a significant other and much more.

Now, this is easier said than done. only because there are a great number of people today that I have witnessed or heard about that are known pushovers. the only thing is, they don’t know that they are being pushed over. and for the ones who DO KNOW and not take immediate action and allows the disrespect, then you my friend are showing a great deal of cowardice. I pray that you find yourself and really take the time to love on yourself and look inward to what’s really happening and take action on spending a great deal of your time on that. That will take time, so you have to be patient with yourself. you have to give yourself time to heal. time to think about the great things that you love about yourself and continue to think on those things. the more you do that on a daily basis. that true “alone time” is sure to put you in a mindset that you are valuable and you must protect what is valuable at all times.

You can do it. Be strong. Be courageous. You will be surprised how people view you. especially if you care about what other people think, like I do. I still have work to do, but what I have learned during my time in unfolding more layers of myself, I realize that there is so much more love to give yourself. and the very people who’s views you care about, will end up being the other way around. You will find out, much like I did, is that the same people will look at you with a great deal of respect because you did the work to respect yourself, first. I hope the best for you today. I hope you learn how to stand firm on who you are and take the time to put in the work and earn the respect of yourself and in turn, others will respect you. and if they don’t? oh well, fuck them.

Much Love,

Jermy