Unconditional conditions…
Love yourself unconditionally. When you learn to do that, then your life will display the exact result of what it looks like when you love yourself, first. When you know your strengths as well as your weaknesses and are ok with both. When you start to look for happiness in other people, I compare it to shooting holes in your boat JB the middle of the ocean and expecting someone’s else to come save you. I’ve come to the realization that I cannot afford to live a life where I bring other people unhappiness. It’s a clear indicator, to me, to me, to ME… that I, personally have created an arena where someone can feel unhappy being with me. You cannot get caught up in what other people’s projection of you is because some, two people can just be on different wavelengths.
I do believe that the moment you start to look for love in other places an people and things, is when you should really hit the brakes and examine, what it is or who is it exactly that is activating this unhappy feeling in my life. I always point the camera to myself whenever I start to have problems in my relationships because it all starts and ends with me. It is not for me to take personal when someone is unhappy with me on any level: friendships, business, family, etc. It really breaks my heart whenever I hurt someone’s feelings. I always look in the mirror and ask myself, “What did I do to make this person feel this way?” What is it about myself that is happening to where it’s effecting the people that I love ?
I just don’t know, to be quite honest. This is probably the reason why I’ve been such a “Loner” in my life. Maybe I’m too afraid of hurting people. Maybe I’m just better not fully engaging in personal relationships because I know my shortcomings and I’m afraid that it will come back to plant a grenade in my relationships. I don’t know. All I know is that I have to be happy within, in order to give the best kind of love I can give. I have so much work that needs to be done personally and I take full responsibility for my part when things don’t go well because it all begins and ends with me. I pride myself on taking ownership of my actions because it’s just easier to live my life that way. It takes a lot of the load off and it doesn’t allow me to point blame at others when I feel that everything that happens in my life, good, bad or indifferent is because I played the starring role in my movie.
and that’s really all I have to say about that today…I’m sure theres more but the moral of this whole lost is to continue to love yourself and don’t put yourself in positions that will make you question who you are and your value. Having a sense of positive self-worth is key to attracting the right people into your life and don’t be afraid to be by yourself. Don’t dee like you have to depend on someone else for your happiness.
Have a bless day! ❤️
-Jermy
