You know what I’m sayin?
Don’t put your trust in man. Man is going to let you down every time. The moment you stop looking for things in other people to complete you, is the moment you will become truly free. You see, the thing about me is that I do not look to others, that which I can find in myself. I used to be at a point where I would find myself displaying needy behavior because I was Looking for love in all the wrong places. The true love I had to find was a true love for myself. If my cup is not full, how could I pour into anybody else? Who could I bless if I don’t love myself. In the scriptures it says that for Hod so loved the WORLD that he gave the only thing he had one of: His son, Jesus. But what it doesn’t mention is the amount of love that has to be filled inside of God, that he has blessed us with the very planet we were put in? How could we not be so filled with love? How could you possibly love someone before you can first learn to love yourself?
I oftentimes think about all of the moments where I could have made better decisions if I had more love for myself. It’s not a regretful thought or feeling, but it’s more of a refresher that I cannot give to people, more than what I think of or give of myself. I encourage you to make the decision to love yourself a little more today. Be kind to yourself. Don’t let others hold your happiness hostage. Don’t depend on someone else to make you feel like you have some self-worth. Always believe in yourself and watch how things start to change in your life.
Bet on yourself. Trust and believe in the gifts that you have and your abilities to create a life of abundant happiness for yourself. Much Love ❤️ -Jermy
RIP ANDRE HARRELL.
To one of the most iconic figures in music, responsible for curating the soundtrack to my teenage years, Mr. Andre Harrell. I had the opportunity to meet him once, on the set of “State of the Culture” with Joe Budden. I was there visiting Joe and he just so happened to be there that day. I was in awe when I saw him because I couldn’t believe I was that close lol but, I also noticed he was walking on a cane. Don’t know if that was any indicator of his health, but it was still cool to at least say “Hello Mr. Harrell” and him reply, “Hey, how are you?” And shake my hand. Man, it’s been a rough year with deaths so far and with this pandemic hitting us hard in the process, it’s been real tough to experience so much death to people that mean something to you on some level.
Rest In Peace to all of the loved ones that were lost this year from Covid and just leaving the earth, period. Some people can’t even bury their family members tight now. People are even having ‘Zoom’ funerals. It’s just a weird time to be alive in this world with so many things going on. Just keep praying you guys and love one another. Cherish the moments that you share with the individuals that you encounter and always count your blessings. Once again, Rest In Peace to Andre, Kobe, GG, Fred Da godson and so many others… let’s keep their families in prayer, together. Much Love ❤️ -Jermy
Unconditional conditions…
Love yourself unconditionally. When you learn to do that, then your life will display the exact result of what it looks like when you love yourself, first. When you know your strengths as well as your weaknesses and are ok with both. When you start to look for happiness in other people, I compare it to shooting holes in your boat JB the middle of the ocean and expecting someone’s else to come save you. I’ve come to the realization that I cannot afford to live a life where I bring other people unhappiness. It’s a clear indicator, to me, to me, to ME… that I, personally have created an arena where someone can feel unhappy being with me. You cannot get caught up in what other people’s projection of you is because some, two people can just be on different wavelengths.
I do believe that the moment you start to look for love in other places an people and things, is when you should really hit the brakes and examine, what it is or who is it exactly that is activating this unhappy feeling in my life. I always point the camera to myself whenever I start to have problems in my relationships because it all starts and ends with me. It is not for me to take personal when someone is unhappy with me on any level: friendships, business, family, etc. It really breaks my heart whenever I hurt someone’s feelings. I always look in the mirror and ask myself, “What did I do to make this person feel this way?” What is it about myself that is happening to where it’s effecting the people that I love ?
I just don’t know, to be quite honest. This is probably the reason why I’ve been such a “Loner” in my life. Maybe I’m too afraid of hurting people. Maybe I’m just better not fully engaging in personal relationships because I know my shortcomings and I’m afraid that it will come back to plant a grenade in my relationships. I don’t know. All I know is that I have to be happy within, in order to give the best kind of love I can give. I have so much work that needs to be done personally and I take full responsibility for my part when things don’t go well because it all begins and ends with me. I pride myself on taking ownership of my actions because it’s just easier to live my life that way. It takes a lot of the load off and it doesn’t allow me to point blame at others when I feel that everything that happens in my life, good, bad or indifferent is because I played the starring role in my movie.
and that’s really all I have to say about that today…I’m sure theres more but the moral of this whole lost is to continue to love yourself and don’t put yourself in positions that will make you question who you are and your value. Having a sense of positive self-worth is key to attracting the right people into your life and don’t be afraid to be by yourself. Don’t dee like you have to depend on someone else for your happiness.
Have a bless day! ❤️
-Jermy