Be the Flow..

Be the Flow

I didn’t plan on being serious today, but that’s just where I’m at. The last couple of days have carried a kind of serious energy, and I need to get this off my chest — life really is about being the flow.

I know that sounds cliché, but Jay-Z once said during his B-Sides concert, “Don’t go with the flow — be the flow.” That line stuck with me. It hits even harder now that I’m older and have a little more life experience. It’s honestly the best way to describe the season I’m in right now.

I’ve been learning to let go — a lot — and the more I let go, the lighter I get. Most of that has to do with my breathing and paying closer attention to my body and mood. It takes patience to sit in your own silence, to breathe, and wait to hear from God Himself. But when you do, something shifts. There comes a moment — after enough deep, intentional breaths — where you land in a place of complete peace. And I’ve been swimming in that energy lately. A lot.

I think my mind keeps interpreting it as “seriousness,” but it’s deeper than that. It’s awareness. It’s presence. It’s understanding what’s really going on within and around me. I love it. I love being aware of who I am and what I am. And that, to me, feels beautifully serious — the kind of serious that’s sacred.

I’ve learned how to breathe the right way — mostly through my psychedelic practices. When you’re coming up on mushrooms, that wave of euphoria hits like the ocean, and if you don’t breathe through it, it can sweep you into anxiety. It takes practice. But now, it’s second nature.

When I feel emotions that aren’t the most positive, I breathe right through them. When negative thoughts creep in — the ones you accidentally start to believe — my body reacts with anxiety or worry that can feel hard to endure. But I remind myself: just breathe. When life gets tough, it won’t last forever. Embrace it. Not just endure it — love it. Because that discomfort is just a version of you that’s hurting, calling out for attention. The solution isn’t to fight it, or to beat yourself up, or to take it out on other people.

I used to fall into that pattern when I wasn’t emotionally mature enough to see it. I was training my body to stay on high alert — losing trust, losing belief, mostly in myself. And that disbelief trickles down into everything. It’s a domino effect on your whole mindset.

So if you’re going through something similar, the best medicine I can give you is this: breathe. Be patient. Be kind to yourself. Encourage yourself with gentle words. Allow the feeling to move through you — don’t resist it. Lean into it. Feel it. Love it the way you’d love your younger self. That’s what I had to learn.

And trust me — I don’t always have the best days. Sometimes life gets the best of me, but most days, it doesn’t. Each test, each lesson, each experience — they all shape me into something better. A better person. A better father. A better friend. A better Jermy.

And if I have to go through the fire to find myself at the end — more whole, more refined, more complete — then mission accomplished.

I hope something great happens to you today. I pray God’s favor over your life — that He puts you through just enough fire to come out shining like pure gold.

Much love,
Jermy