Quality time..
I love spending time with my son. I love his energy and his willingness to solve problems, wether the ideas are good or bad he’s always suggesting things and always taking initiative and it really makes me proud as his father to know that he is displaying characteristics that will be key benefactors to who he becomes as a man in the future. Its my responsibility to cultivate that in him, early. It’s a blessing, really. I’m justy in awe of him and I’m grateful to have this time with him this summer.
Fatherhood is great. I love being a father. Some may try to downplay the role of a father, especially in the african-American community and there are a lot of fathers that get a bad rap for whatever reason, but thing is for sure, the fathers who make it a point to be in the their children’s lives, deserve that chance. But I find that I am a part of a group of people who believe that there can be a change to that perception and to break that generational curse that has dismantled families, for years. I can’t speak for fathers of times past, but I can do my part to reader the negative stigma that can be bestowed upon black men as a whole.
As a parent, we don’t always get it right. I mean, I’m still trying to figure things out myself. But I’m blessed to have been given the opportunity to be a father. God chose me and gave me the responsibility of molding this young man to be the very best person that God called him to be. All while working through all of my personal stuff. As parents, we put so much of our own personal loves to the side so that we can provide for our children, but how can one balance the responsibility of parenthood all while still pursuing our dreams and passions? That’s something I’m still learning to do. I’ve made a great deal of mistakes but I have a lot of victories, too. I’m just glad that I learned from the mistakes and it’s made me a better father but also a better person and in a lot of ways, a better businessman. In business, you have to be patient but you also have to be stern. In addition to being compassionate and displaying a great deal of empathy.
So, today is for all of the parents out there, but especially the fathers. May you continue to shine and be great fathers for yourself kids and for yourself. Let’s continue to break down these curses and raise our children to the best of our abilities with God guiding us the entire way. God bless you guys and I pray that something great happens to you. Much Love ❤️ -Jermy
Control..
Happy Friday! I know that this may sound a little strange to some. Shit, it still feels strange to me but, whatever happens to you in your life, in my opinion, is totally your fault. The good, the bad and the questionable. It’s no secret that what you put out, you get in return. You reap what you sow, that’s what your fault. All of the things that are under your control, you have the power to make it what you want. No, it doesn’t always go your way but it is good to know that whatever it is that you are doing, it won’t be long before you see the result. And depending on what and how much you poured into what you’re controlling, you will be sure to get back but just know, it’s your fault.
Does that sound negative to you? I find it to be very true in most cases because the energy you put into things is the energy you get back. Doesn’t mean that you won’t get some bad fruit, it’s still fruit but not in-season and that can be your fault too. Only because it’s a matter of patience and cultivating moments in your life that can have lifetime, lasting effects and how you go about doing things.
I haven’t really been feeling the greatest, emotionally lately. I think that I haven’t had a chance to really harness my negative emotions and live with the feelings as well. I have to learn to let things go and that’s really been the most challenging thing for me to do, personally. I’m honestly just tired of being in one-sided relationships and friendships. So, instead of running the risk of coming off thirsty, I learn to remove myself from those people who make me feel less than or does not reciprocate the same energy in return. I have a right to not allow negative energy into my space and I will take full advantage of that right on a continuous basis. A lot of times, I run the risk of going above and beyond for people and the return on the investment is a lost never good. I think that’s how people get taken advantage of, if they’re not careful. People can take your kindness for weakness and if you’re not careful, they can definitely take a toll on you, mentally and emotionally. If you let them. I have to do a better job at having more discernment when it comes to things like this because, if you do not have the wisdom to see where you are not being watered, it’s time to make a move. Let people go, block people on your social media and phone, do whatever it takes for you to get to a place of peace. But most importantly, do not take anything personal. People are going to be who they are and you cannot control that and the minute you try to start controlling people and situations and circumstances, you are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment and a lot of unnecessary emotional baggage. Baggage is that I refuse to carry. Baggage that I cannot allow to consume me because it is not my baggage to claim. Once you get to the point where nothing really effects you negatively, you are now the one in the driver’s seat. It’s funny how, completely relinquishing control over things is the pathway to freedom. Funny how that works. But you can’t hold on and let go at the same time so, it’s just better that you let go and see what happens and not be afraid to go for the things you want and to love the life you truly want to live and not having anybody have an impact on your decision.
This rain is making me want to take a nap, so that’s exactly what I’m going to do on this very rainy Friday afternoon. Take care, you guys and I hope you have a fantastic weekend. Much Love. ❤️ -Jermy